Angela Duckworth said it well, “At various points, in big ways and small, we get knocked down. If we stay down, grit loses. If we get up, grit prevails. Grit and self-control are related but are not the same thing.”
How to get “gritty?” Duckworth identified 5 ways:
1. Pursue Your Interests: Find something that genuinely fascinates you. Passion fuels perseverance.
2. Practice Deliberately: Embrace mistakes and setbacks as part of the learning process. You’ll make errors when you practice, but that’s how improvement happens. View frustration positively—it’s a sign of growth.
3. Clarity of Goals: Be crystal-clear about your ultimate goal and align smaller goals with it. Clarity helps maintain focus and commitment.
4. Make Your Work Meaningful: Seek ways to infuse purpose into your tasks. Even minor adjustments can make your work feel more fulfilling.
5. Practice Optimistic Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts with enabling thoughts. Encourage yourself during challenges.
Duckworth said, “Grit isn’t fixed—it’s something you can develop over time as you keep pushing forward.”
Two of my three sons are proud UC Irvine Anteaters (the other a Banana Slug), but today, I’m delving into a different kind of ‘ant’—the kind that can infest our minds.
Several years ago, I had the privilege of meeting Dr. Daniel Amen. It was from him that I learned about the concept of Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs), a term he coined in the early 1990s. The origin story of ANTs is as intriguing as it is enlightening.
After a particularly challenging day at his office, filled with sessions from suicidal patients to couples locked in conflict, Dr. Amen returned home only to find his kitchen overrun by ants. This infestation sparked a realization: just as ants had invaded his home, his patients’ minds were besieged by ANTs, stripping away their joy and commandeering their happiness.
Dr. Amen’s insights extend beyond mere observations. In his book about the brain’s profound influence on our well-being, he elucidates how each thought triggers a chemical reaction in our brains. Negative thoughts—be they sad, hopeless, or angry—prompt our brains to release chemicals that induce physical discomfort: hands turn clammy, muscles tense up, heart rates spike, and breathing shallows. Moreover, such thoughts can dampen the activity in our frontal and temporal lobes, impairing judgment, learning, and memory.
Conversely, positive thoughts have the power to release a different set of chemicals that promote a sense of physical ease and mental clarity. A happy or hopeful thought can warm your hands, relax your muscles, steady your heart, deepen your breath, and enhance your brain’s performance.
So, how do we combat ANTs?
Dr. Amen identifies several species of negative thought patterns, each with its own destructive tendencies:
Fortune Telling: This ANT thrives on pessimism, forecasting doom without any real evidence.
Mind Reading: A common ANT that convinces you of others’ thoughts without their input, often leading to misunderstandings.
Guilt Beatings: Words like ‘should’ and ‘must’ can whip up feelings of obligation rather than motivation, fostering negativity.
Blame: Casting blame renders you powerless, trapping you in victimhood.
Labeling: Derogatory names cloud judgment and can cause lasting harm.
The Path Forward:
When negative emotions surge, take a moment to jot down your thoughts. Identify the ANT at play and confront it. Challenging these negative thoughts diminishes their influence, reclaiming control over your mind and emotions.
“Onward and upward” is a mindset that requires optimism, empathy, curiosity, and action.
Optimism is the ability to overcome adversity despite the circumstances.
Empathy is understanding situations from another’s perspective with no judgment. The ability to choose to respond rather than to react.
Curiosity. To be effective, be curious: curious about how people are feeling, curious about why things happen, curious about the future, curious about steps to take to navigate difficult waters.
Action. The winners are the doers. Talk is cheap; action speaks.
When we make changes by design vs. default, we can craft a future that supports the growth we deserve.
In today’s fast-paced world, there are countless conference opportunities for agents, team leaders, and broker-owners. Among them, Inman Connect events in New York and Las Vegas. This year’s Las Vegas event was no exception, offering a wealth of learning and networking opportunities.
The main topic?
Co-op commission sharing is dead, and how to move forward in a new commission model.
No matter which conference you choose to attend, it’s essential to have a plan for what comes next. That’s where my 4-Step Post-Conference Guide comes in. Professional conferences are unparalleled opportunities to expand your network, gain fresh ideas, deepen connections, break out of your routine, and shake things up.
Yet, many of us struggle to take action after these events. Why is that?
Often, it’s because we return home with an overwhelming amount of information to process.
To combat this, it’s crucial to create a post-conference action plan that empowers you.
The key to a successful post-conference routine is taking ACTION.
Here are 4 steps to maximize your conference investment:
Network Post-Event: Don’t let those valuable connections fade away. Follow up, close the loop, and build relationships for referrals, accountability, and more.
Leverage Your Social Channels: Showcase your commitment to excellence and service by sharing your conference experiences on social media. Highlight how your time investment benefits your customers and potential clients.
Organize Your Notes into a Checklist: Commit to action by creating a checklist of key takeaways and sharing it with an accountability partner, mentor, or coach. Checklists are powerful tools that help you get more done and keep your brain happy. According to research summarized by best-selling author Maria Konnikova, here’s why:
Your Mind Seeks Organization: Lists tap into our preferred way of receiving and organizing information at a subconscious level.
Spatial Processing: It’s easier to remember items when they’re written down in bulleted or numbered points.
Categorization: We process information more efficiently when it’s organized into lists rather than clustered in paragraphs.
Time Awareness: Knowing how long tasks will take increases our commitment to completing them.
Self-Reinforcement: Checking off items from a list provides a dopamine hit, encouraging us to return to the list for more.
Do your brain a favor and break down what you learned into actionable checklists.
Take Action NOW!: Don’t wait! Procrastination only delays your success. Implement what you’ve learned immediately.
So, there you have it—4 steps to make the most of your conference experience!
Saturday Reflections: Lessons from Golf for Life and Business
As I recover from a pinched nerve this Saturday, I find myself reflecting on some golf lesson notes I jotted down. It struck me how these concepts extend beyond the golf course, resonating with business, hobbies, and life itself. Here’s a summary of my notes:
Thoughts Precede Motion: Before any action, there’s a thought. What we think shapes what we do.
Being Comes First; Doing Second: Who do you need to be to achieve your goals? Your actions will follow your identity.
Visualize What You Want: See it, feel it, trust it. Visualization is a powerful tool in achieving our goals.
It’s Not About the Ball; It’s About What’s Possible: Focus on the potential and the possibilities, not just the immediate task.
Manage Your Mental State: Prepare yourself mentally to perform at your best. Your mindset is crucial.
Routine is All About Confidence: Choose confidence over comfort. A solid routine builds confidence.
Tempo, Rhythm, and Balance: These are key in golf and in life. Find your flow and maintain your balance.
Routine and consistency are still undefeated!
As I ponder these lessons, I realize they’re not just about improving my golf game. They’re about winning the day, every day.
#WinTheDay
PS: What do you think? Do any of these principles resonate with you?
What’s on My Mind: Sleep, Soil, and Next-Level Results
Ask my family, and they’ll tell you: I’m a solid sleeper. Earthquakes, tornadoes, storms – I’ve snoozed through them all. Yet last night, insomnia paid an unwelcome visit. Regardless, I rose with determination, greeting the day with energy and gratitude.
This morning, I found myself in the quiet embrace of a church pew, attending Mass. The message centered around soil – yes, soil. Four distinct types unfolded before me:
Indifferent Soil: A barren wasteland, unyielding and uncaring. It reminded me of George Bernard Shaw’s words: “The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them.” Indifference the essence of inhumanity.
Shallow & Superficial Soil: Like a thin layer of topsoil, barely covering the bedrock. Quick fixes, surface-level connections – they thrive here. But depth eludes us. True growth requires roots that dig deeper.
Distracted Soil: Scatterbrained and scattered, like seeds carried away by the wind. Distractions pull us in every direction. We forget to nurture what matters, leaving our potential untapped.
Committed Soil: Ah, the fertile ground! Here, seeds take root, reaching for the sun. Commitment, resilience, purpose – they flourish. Next-level results sprout from this well-tended earth.
And the challenge echoed: “What type of soil are you?” I pondered. Perhaps I’m a mix – a garden of varied soils. Yet how can I strive for the committed soil, where growth thrives?
Mother Teresa’s wisdom echoed, too: being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for – is a significant “disease.” It’s too easy to look the other way and say, “That does not concern me!”
So, my friends, I’ll pass on the challenge: “How can we cultivate compassion, tend our soil, and win the day?”
Let’s face it: your real estate sales and service business is a commodity. So, how do you stand out?
First, understand that selling a service is much different than selling a product. Some examples?
The Marketing Mix (4 Ps):
Products: The marketing mix includes Product, Price, Place, and Promotion.
Services: The extended marketing mix adds People, Process, and Physical Evidence (Social Proof).
Customer Involvement:
Products: Customers evaluate products based on features, price, and brand reputation.
Services: Customers actively participate in service delivery. Their experience influences satisfaction, loyalty, and future referrals.
Intangibility:
Products: Tangible goods can be seen, touched, and evaluated before purchase.
Services: Services are intangible; customers experience them during or after consumption. Marketing focuses on conveying the value of the service rather than showcasing a physical product.
Marketing Strategies for Commodity Real Estate Sales
Deliver Consistent Quality
Even in a commodity market, consistency matters.
Your Affiliate Network: Ensure all of your recommended providers meet or exceed your quality of experience standard. Your brand is only as good as your extended network of providers.
Professional Presentation: Invest in professional photography and staging services. High-quality images create a positive first impression.
Transparent Communication: Reliable and consistent communication builds trust.
Diversify Your Expertise
Consider these strategies:
Niche Markets: Identify specific property types (e.g., luxury homes, waterfront properties) or demographics (e.g., first-time homebuyers, retirees). Tailor your marketing efforts accordingly.
Additional Services: Offer value-added services like property management or relocation assistance. Diversification attracts a broader clientele.
Collaborate with Professionals: Partner with mortgage brokers, interior designers, or contractors. Comprehensive solutions enhance your reputation.
Customization
Personalization is key. Tailor your services to individual customer needs:
Buyer Profiles: Understand buyers’ preferences. Customize property recommendations based on their lifestyle and requirements.
Personalized Follow-Up: After a transaction, send personalized messages. Small gestures build lasting relationships.
Enhance Customer Experience
Exceptional customer experience turns clients into advocates:
Quick Response Times: Be accessible and attentive. Respond promptly to inquiries.
Educational Content: Share informative content on your website or social media. Position yourself as a knowledgeable resource.
Post-Transaction Support: Provide resources for moving, home improvement, or local services.
These are just a few ideas to consider. Remember, your unique approach and dedication to the client experience will set you apart in the competitive real estate market.
