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Technology vs. Relationships

Technology vs. Relationships.
The top 1% approach it differently.

Peter Sheehan, a leading expert on generational change and business performance, wrote about how peak performers use technology yet stay in touch with genuine relationships.

There are over twenty different ways to affirm others, but you can reduce them to just two verbs:

Notice and Verbalize.

What would happen if today:

  • At family gatherings, invite everyone to mention something they admire about another family member.
  • Look for someone making do in disappointing circumstances and affirm their perseverance.
  • When someone helps you change your mind about an issue, affirm their persuasiveness and communication skills.

Success can take many forms, like affirming others through noticing and verbalizing.

#WinTheDay

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Why Do Most Efforts To Change Fail?

Well, that is a bummer of a headline! Read on.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”

~ Leo Tolstoy

According to Harvard professor Dr. John Paul Kotter – and confirmed by my coaching experience – efforts to change fail due to a lack of a STRONG sense of URGENCY. In his book, “A Sense Of Urgency,” Kotter states:

Change efforts most often fail when those desiring to change do not create a high enough sense of urgency to make a challenging leap in a new direction. Urgency and urgency is key. Urgency is the state of mind that creates IMMEDIATE action in your new direction.

Once you have determined your desire, take action. Any action. A small step, a medium step, or a massive step. Taking action and taking more action is the ONE THING we must all learn to cultivate to achieve higher levels of success.

If you believe what you have in mind will make a difference, I just have two questions.

  • What are you waiting for?
  • What’s holding you back?

Whatever it is, push through it today and TAKE ACTION.

Share with someone right now the action step you are committed to taking… and ask them to help hold you accountable.

#WinTheDay

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Top Gun – What The 1% Do Consistently

Think about it. In sports –  and all other endeavors – the game is won in the days, weeks, and even months leading up to the actual game, event, or project. The game is won in preparation. Watching films of previous games, memorizing plays, hitting the gym, eating correctly, and even getting enough sleep.

Professional real estate sales are no different.

I spend a lot of time with the top 1% of producers, helping them grow, solving business challenges, and documenting what they do. Curious?

Here are the top six things our top 1% do consistently:

  • They do their research.
  • They’re genuinely interested in and understand others’ personality styles.
  • They’re prepared for anything, especially the objections and most frequently asked questions.
  • They leave their ego in the car.
  • They are a master of managing expectations.
  • They debrief and learn from every situation.

Research

We know from the National Association of REALTORS® that 63% of consumers find real estate professionals through a referral from a friend or a past business relationship. And 68% of consumers choose a real estate professional based on their perceived trustworthiness, experience, and reputation.

Top producers know these numbers and invest their time, energy, and effort into where the business will most likely be generated.

Genuine Interest

What I have observed from top producers to those struggling is glaring. Top producers genuinely care about the relationship, while those struggling care about making a buck.

I’ve used a unique system called B.A.N.K. to pinpoint anyone’s personality in nanoseconds. It’s fun, engaging and helps create rapport.

This high emotional intelligence approach leverages the best assessment tools, high-energy training, and cutting-edge technology to maximize results.

Leave Nothing To Chance

Top performers rehearse or role-play frequently; many do this every day! Here are some tips I picked up:

  • Make a list of every question, concern, or objection your prospect might bring up.
  • Create a list of everything that could go wrong.
  • Develop a transparent, logical, authentic, and persuasive response to every possible question, concern, and objection.
  • Think of how you can get ahead of these circumstances by using stories and anecdotes, case studies and testimonials, statistics and facts.
  • Have your information, ideas, and documentation well organized so you can reference the appropriate notes and materials at any time.

Ego

Gary Vaynerchuk put it well: “When you care more about the other person than you care about hitting your quota – when you make that shift – you go into the Jedi-ness of becoming a great salesperson.”

A professional real estate salesperson with a massive ego can easily mistake refusal for rejection. When you make this mistake, it’s all too easy to take it personally. The truth? Far more people will say no than say yes.

So, how do you deal with this?

The top 1% have learned not to internalize rejection. Top performers exert power over their emotions and know this is a critical skill to master.

Managing Expectations

As a former Chief Executive of a large organization and co-founder of a going concern, I get the problems that others have not solved. And literally, I’ve been tracking these, and guess what – they all have a common root:

Unmatched expectations!

Many things have to happen, often in a specific sequence, before a transaction closes. Do you know what these things are? Do you know where you’re at in the process with each client, prospect, and partner?

  1. Seek to understand what has come before each step
  2. Don’t assume everyone knows what will happen next
  3. Anticipate needs before others
  4. Communicate constantly and clearly
  5. Under-promise and over-deliver

Debrief

Debriefing is a structured learning process designed to evolve plans while they’re being executed continuously. It originated in the military to learn quickly in rapidly changing situations and address mistakes or changes in the field. In fact, I shared this document with my team – glad to be here – after seeing the Blue Angels do a flyover.

In business, debriefing has been widely documented as critical to accelerating projects, innovating novel approaches, and hitting challenging objectives. It also brings a team together, strengthens relationships, and fosters team learning.

Top producers have mastered this concept and execute this discipline more often than others. As such, these high-performing teams are more tight-knit than those who don’t.

The game is won or lost before stepping on the playing field. So, before you play in sales again, do your research, be genuinely interested in others, be prepared for anything, leave your ego in the car and become a master of managing expectations. Finally – just like the Blue Angels – debrief and learn from every situation.

#WinTheDay

 

Beyond the Surface: Discovering Your True “Why”

A few years ago, I was coaching a real estate agent who was eager to implement some new sales strategies. “I can’t wait to begin,” she exclaimed to me.

Instead of simply praising her enthusiasm, I asked a simple but powerful question: “Why is that important to you?”

Her initial answer was predictable: “To sell more homes.”

But I kept digging:

  • “Why do you want to sell more homes?” “To make more money.”
  • “Why do you want to make more money?” “To buy a larger home.”
  • “Why do you want a larger home?” “So my mother and sister can move in with me.”
  • “Why is that important?” “It’s been our dream to live together as a family.”

This conversation revealed something crucial: she didn’t really want to sell more houses. Selling more houses was simply a means to an end. What she truly desired was the experience of living with her family in a shared home. Her “why” wasn’t about sales figures; it was about family connection and fulfilling a long-held dream.

This principle applies to all areas of life, not just real estate. We often focus on surface-level goals—more sales, a promotion, a bigger paycheck—without considering the deeper motivations behind them.

Why is it important to uncover your true “why”?

  • Increased Motivation: When you connect with your core motivations, you tap into a powerful source of intrinsic drive. This makes it easier to overcome obstacles and stay committed to your goals.
  • Clearer Focus: Understanding your “why” helps you prioritize your actions and make decisions that align with your values.
  • Greater Fulfillment: Achieving surface-level goals without a strong “why” can leave you feeling empty. Connecting with your deeper motivations leads to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

How can you discover your own “why”?

Use the “5 Whys” technique, as demonstrated in the opening example. When you identify a goal, ask yourself “why” five times (or as many times as necessary) to peel back the layers and uncover the underlying motivation.

Example:

  • Goal: I want to get a promotion.
  • Why? To earn more money.
  • Why? To provide a better education for my children.
  • Why? Because I want them to have more opportunities than I did.
  • Why? Because I want to ensure they have a secure and fulfilling future.

In this example, the true “why” is about providing for the next generation and ensuring their future well-being.

What are your goals? Take a moment to ask yourself “why” and dig deeper. You might be surprised at what you discover. Uncovering your true “why” is the first step towards achieving lasting success and fulfillment. And that is how we win the day!

So what is it you REALLY want?

 

Imagine That
Imagine That

 

 

The Inspiration Equation

From John Maxwell. Use the “Inspiration Equation” to connect. This equation has three elements:

What People Need to Know.

Show others that you are on their side and care about them, that they matter to you, and that you expect significant things from them.

What People Need to See.

Demonstrate your conviction, character, and credibility concerning your area of expertise.

What People Need to Feel.

Be confident and passionate about your subject matter. Demonstrate your gratitude for allowing those around you to share in your passion.

When you first meet someone, how you communicate makes all the difference. Once someone knows you, credibility will become vital in maintaining your bonds with them.

#WinTheDay

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The One Thing Is: TRUST

Stephen Covey’s book proves it, and Google’s research reinforces it… there is ONE thing in common to every individual, relationship, family, organization, and government throughout the world. When removed, the one thing will destroy the most powerful army, the most successful business, the greatest friendship, and the deepest love.

The ONE Thing Is TRUST!

TRUST is the most significant predictor of an individual’s satisfaction within their team.

According to Google research, TRUST, not a brand, is the number #1 factor consumers use in selecting an agent.

So, what is trust? Jack Welch, the legendary CEO of General Electric, said about trust, “You know it when you feel it!” In any relationship, what you do has a far greater impact than what you say. Thus, trust is established through ACTION, and action is driven by your behaviors.

In his book The Speed of Trust, Stephen Covey outlines 13 behaviors that drive trust. The first five behaviors relate to character, the second five relate to competence, and the remainder are a mix of the two.

The 13 Behaviors Are:

  1. Talk straight
  2. Demonstrate respect
  3. Create transparency
  4. Right wrongs
  5. Show loyalty
  6. Deliver RESULTS
  7. Get better every day
  8. Confront reality
  9. Clarify expectations
  10. Practice Accountability
  11. Listen first
  12. Keep commitments
  13. Trust others… extend trust to others as part of your DNA

Covey believes the quickest way to decrease trust is to violate a behavior of character, while the fastest way to build trust is to demonstrate a behavior of competence.

In the end, in today’s modern, fast-paced economy, trust is essential to our mutual prosperity. We can create it, we can restore it, and we can extend it.

Trusting this post will prompt you toward a more powerful week. How will you practice trust this week?

#WinTheDay

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The System Over the Swing: Why Great Coaches Don’t Need a Pro Pedigree

There is a persistent myth that to lead the best, you must have been the best. We assume the top-producing agent naturally makes a great manager — that the Hall of Fame athlete is destined for coaching glory.

The record says otherwise.

Many of the greatest coaches in history never played their game at a professional level. Their greatness didn’t come from raw physical talent. It came from mastering systems, demanding discipline, and earning the right to set the standard rather than simply execute someone else’s.


The Evidence

Mike Leach — College Football

Leach never played a single down of college or professional football. Yet he became the architect of the Air Raid offense, a system that permanently rewired how the sport is played. He succeeded not as an athlete, but as a student of the game — breaking down mechanics that naturally gifted players take for granted, then building a repeatable structure around them.

Bill Belichick — NFL

Arguably the greatest NFL coach of all time, Belichick’s playing career ended at Wesleyan University. He never relied on personal athletic instinct. He relied on a process. His dynasty was built on relentless preparation, disciplined talent evaluation, and the daily compounding of small, unglamorous habits. Individual stardom was never the point. The process was.

Cheryl Reeve — WNBA

Reeve played college ball at La Salle but never played professionally. As a coach, she led the Minnesota Lynx to four championships by doing something most leaders avoid: she made her players justify their decisions out loud, in real time, on the court. That culture of accountability — not her playing résumé — is what turned good athletes into championship-level ones.

Gregg Popovich — NBA

Popovich played at the Air Force Academy but never touched an NBA court as a player. He built the San Antonio Spurs into the sport’s model franchise — not through star power, but through organizational coherence and deliberate discomfort. He is famous for pushing back on his own superstars mid-career, in front of the team, testing whether they have the spine for the moments that matter most.


These four coaches share something important: none of them got to coast on reputation. They had to earn their authority through what they built, not what they once did.


Why They Win

They mastered the why. Coaches who weren’t stars had to study the mechanics deeply. They couldn’t rely on intuition, so they built understanding instead — and understanding is teachable in a way that raw talent never is.

They aren’t afraid of tension. A player or agent who can’t handle pressure from a coach will fold in the moment that counts. These coaches create discomfort on purpose. It’s a feature of their leadership, not a flaw.

They built playbooks, not pedestals. A star relies on a hot streak. These coaches built repeatable frameworks that produce results regardless of who is pulling the lever. The structure outlasts any individual within it.


The Bottom Line

Whether you are a CEO, a broker-owner, or a recruiter, the lesson is the same: you do not need a professional trophy to be a world-class mentor.

The coaches above didn’t win by being the most talented person in the room. They won by being the most disciplined — by building frameworks that made excellence inevitable, and by holding the line when it would have been easier to let things slide.

The authority was never handed to them. They built it.


A System Will Produce What A System Will Produce, Nothing Less and Nothing More!