One thought today:
Your daily actions are your current truth.
By the inch it’s a cinch by the mile it’s a pile.
Your Daily Actions
Category: Mindset
Two Thoughts For Today
Two thoughts today… there is a large tree near my office window that provides some great shade.
“Because someone planted a tree many years ago, someone is sitting in the shade today.”
The other thought after speaking with a number of colleagues this week?
You can’t plow a field by turning it over in your head:
“It takes the same amount of energy to believe as it does to worry.”
The winners are the doers.
Control the controllable to win the day.
I Don’t Feel Like It” Is Cracking Your Real Estate Business
Small Cracks Cost Big Money
A few years back, I got a tiny pebble divot in my windshield. A $100 fix. I kept putting it off — busy, distracted, “I’ll get to it.” By the time I finally dealt with it, that little chip had spread into a full crack. $1,000.
That windshield might be your real estate business right now. And it doesn’t matter if you’re an agent, a broker-owner, a CEO, a recruiter, a loan officer, or a title rep — the principle is the same. What’s in front of you matters more than what’s behind. Prospecting fills your pipeline. Recruiting builds your team. Retention keeps it all from leaking out the back. And relationships — the ones you’re nurturing right now with referral partners, affiliated services, and your sphere — are the glass holding everything together. Focus forward.
Small, unattended issues can quickly escalate, especially in a challenging market. Think of today’s market as a rough, pothole-filled road. Every professional in the real estate ecosystem feels the vibration. If you’re not paying attention, small cracks in your business foundation can widen fast.
For agents, those cracks might look like:
- Not knowing where your next lead is coming from
- Lacking systems to handle new business while still generating more
- Feeling overwhelmed by administrative tasks
- Struggling to maintain motivation
For broker-owners and CEOs, the cracks can show up as:
- Agents quietly disengaging or slipping out the back door
- A recruiting pipeline that’s stalled or inconsistent
- Culture drift — where the energy in the office just feels… off
- No clear value proposition to attract or retain top talent in a compressed-commission environment
For recruiters, watch for:
- Outreach that’s reactive rather than proactive
- Candidates going cold because follow-up fell through the cracks
- No system for nurturing long-term relationships with agents not yet ready to move
For mortgage and title professionals, the cracks often look like:
- Agent relationships that are transactional rather than truly partnered
- Inconsistent visibility — showing up only when you need something
- Missing co-marketing opportunities that keep you top of mind between deals
These seemingly minor issues can lead to a bigger problem: the dreaded “I don’t feel like it” mentality. This feeling — this resistance to doing the work — is the universal dream killer. It stops more people from achieving their goals than any other excuse.
But you can overcome it. You can choose a different path.
A Two-Step Strategy to Overcome “I Don’t Feel Like It”
Step 1: Acknowledge and Reframe.
It’s okay to not feel motivated sometimes. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Acknowledge the feeling without letting it control you. Think of it this way: you can’t stop birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them from building a nest in your hair.
Instead of saying “I don’t feel like making calls today,” try: “I’m feeling a bit resistant right now — but I’m going to make just five calls to get started.”
Step 2: Take One Small Action.
Momentum is built through action, not motivation. You don’t need to feel like it to start. In fact, motivation usually shows up after you take the first step.
Some small actions to try — no matter your role:
- Lead Generation / Prospecting: Make five calls, send three texts, or post one piece of valuable content your audience actually needs right now.
- Relationship Building: Send a quick check-in to a past client, a referral partner, or an agent you’ve been meaning to reconnect with. No agenda — just genuine.
- Recruiting / Retention: Reach out to one agent on your radar or have a meaningful conversation with someone already on your team. People leave quietly before they leave officially.
- Skill Development: Spend 15 minutes reviewing market data, sharpening a script, or learning one thing that makes you more valuable to the people you serve.
- Organization: Clear your desk, update your CRM, or map out your next 30 days. Clarity is an action too.
One small action breaks the cycle of procrastination and builds momentum. Once you start, you’ll often find it easier to keep going.
The Bottom Line
Across this industry — agents, leaders, lenders, title reps, recruiters — we are all driving on the same road. And right now, that road is rough. The cracks will come. The question is whether you catch them at $100 or let them become $1,000 problems.
You are in charge of your business — not your feelings. Don’t let “I don’t feel like it“ derail your dreams. Acknowledge the feeling, reframe it, take one small action, and watch your business thrive.
The winners are the doers. And that is how we win the day.
Four Critical Dimensions: Reassurance, Transparency, Simplicity and Speed
Your prospects and clients prioritize four critical dimensions during their home-buying experience:
- Reassurance: Having helpful, knowledgeable, and accessible resources and staff who can confidently guide and support customer decisions. Reassuring they have made the right decision along the way, is a critical skill.
- Transparency: Being open and straightforward about policies, pricing, and processes.
- Simplicity: Streamlining the home selling or home buying journey to make it straightforward and easier to navigate.
- Speed: Efficiently handling the process to minimize delays and waiting times.
“There’s no shortage of remarkable ideas, what’s missing is the will to execute them.”
~Seth Godin
Let’s dig into each of these dimensions a little deeper:
- Reassurance:
- Importance: Reassurance is paramount for customers. They seek confidence in their decisions, especially when making a significant investment like buying a home.
- Your Role: Sales and support staff must be helpful, knowledgeable, and accessible. They must instill trust by providing accurate information, addressing concerns, and guiding clients through the process.
- Customer Benefits: Reassured customers are more likely to proceed with the purchase, leading to successful transactions.
- Transparency:
- Importance: Customers value honesty and transparency. They want to understand policies, pricing, and processes without hidden surprises.
- Clear Communication: Salespeople and support staff should openly discuss all aspects, including costs, fees, and potential challenges. Transparency builds trust and reduces anxiety.
- Avoid Jargon: Simplify complex terms and ensure clients comprehend every step. Transparent communication fosters positive relationships.
- Simplicity:
- Importance: The home selling and buying process can be overwhelming. Customers appreciate simplicity and ease of navigation.
- Streamlined Processes: Salespeople and support staff should simplify paperwork, explain steps clearly, and minimize bureaucracy. A straightforward process reduces stress for buyers.
- User-Friendly Tools: Introduce digital tools that simplify document submission, approvals, and communication. A user-friendly experience enhances satisfaction.
- Speed:
- Importance: Delays frustrate customers. Speedy processes are crucial. Some delays can’t be avoided, and this is when communication, transparency and reassurance merge.
- Efficient Handling: Salespeople and support staff should expedite paperwork, inspections, and approvals. Timeliness demonstrates professionalism.
- Manage Expectations: Communicate realistic timelines and proactively address delays. Clients appreciate transparency even when things take longer.
Customers weigh these dimensions almost equally, with a slight edge given to reassurance.
By prioritizing these aspects, real estate sales professionals and their support teams can create a positive and memorable home-buying experience for their clients.
Remember the Alamo!
The Alamo: A Story of Courage and Sacrifice
As the sun sets in one place, it rises in another. But for the defenders of the Alamo, the sun never rose again. They fought bravely against overwhelming odds, knowing they would not survive. They left behind a legacy of courage and honor that inspires us to this day.
On March 6th, 1836, the 13-day siege and battle of the Alamo came to an end. The Mexican army stormed the fort and killed almost all of the defenders. Among them were famous figures like David Crockett, James Bowie, and William B. Travis, who wrote these immortal words: “I shall never surrender or retreat.” But they were not alone. About 200 other men joined them in the fight, and only 15 lived to tell the tale.
Every year, at dawn on March 6th, a ceremony commemorates the fallen heroes of the Alamo. We remember their names, their faces, and their stories. We honor their sacrifice and their spirit. Remember the Alamo.
How do you handle defeat? My strategy? Accept. Reflect, then redirect!
Ten Excuses The Top 1% All Made
Ten excuses the top 1% all made, yet figured out a way to bust through:
1. I don’t have time
2. I don’t have the money
3. I will try it next year
4. I don’t have enough data
5. I am too tired, skeptical, or biased
6. No one ever did it before
7. It’s too much work
8. I could fail
9. I will wait until _____
10. It’s too risky
Bust through too…
What a difference a week can make?
What a difference a week can make?
- Monday: Smile at someone as you cross paths.
- Tuesday: Put your phone away when with others.
- Wednesday: Tell someone, “You inspire me!”
- Thursday: Pick up litter around your area
- Friday: Tell a story about someone being awesome.
What a difference a week can make!
The Power of Words: Shaping Our Reality and Overcoming Obstacles
Actions are crucial, but the words we use to ourselves and others are the foundation. They are the unseen architects of our reality. They shape every thought, influence every emotion, and ultimately dictate the success (or failure) of every action we take. A small shift in language can mean the difference between a crippling setback and a powerful comeback.
The Lincoln Principle: Reframing Failure
Consider the relentless resilience of Abraham Lincoln. His life wasn’t a straight path to the presidency; it was a brutal series of defeats: business failures, electoral losses, and profound personal tragedies. He was defeated for the state legislature, failed in business, lost the nomination for Congress, and suffered a debilitating nervous breakdown. Yet, he persevered.
He didn’t succeed in spite of his setbacks; he succeeded because of what he learned from them.
We can capture his unbreakable mindset with a simple, powerful mantra for adversity:
“Because of this, something good will happen.”
This phrase doesn’t deny the pain of a loss or failure—it simply reframes it. It forces us to hunt for the learning, the new path, or the unexpected opportunity that only appears after a door slams shut. Every challenge, reframed this way, becomes a non-negotiable step toward growth.
The Six-Word Truth of High Achievement
We’ve been told we can achieve anything we set our minds to. While true, that mantra is often missing a vital caveat. The truth is, you rarely achieve great things alone.
This is the Six-Word Truth of High Achievement:
“You cannot change yourself by yourself.”
Mastery, business growth, overcoming a destructive habit—none of it happens in a vacuum. Discipline demands accountability. Seeking guidance is essential, whether that means hiring a coach, finding a mentor, or joining a committed support group. The discipline required to win is multiplied exponentially when someone is there to hold the line with you.
Conquering the Two Greatest Dream Killers
To sustain success, you must eliminate the two deadliest phrases from your mental vocabulary.
1. The “I Don’t Feel Like It” Trap
The single biggest killer of momentum is the emotion-driven thought: “I don’t feel like it.”
The critical realization is this: Feelings are not prerequisites for action. You don’t have to be motivated to start. You simply have to start.
Stop negotiating with your feelings. Instead of succumbing to the drag of reluctance, choose to act despite it.
Replace the Killer Phrase with a Power Phrase:
| DREAM KILLER | POWER PHRASE |
| “I don’t feel like it.” | “I’ll do it anyway.” |
2. The ANTeater Strategy (Automatic Negative Thought Eater)
The second killer is the Automatic Negative Thought (ANT) – the internal critic that whispers doubt, fear, and scarcity. To conquer these thoughts, you must become an ANTeater.
This isn’t about ignoring negativity; it’s about actively and aggressively challenging it. When you catch an ANT crawling through your mind, stop and ask yourself three questions:
- Is this thought truly helpful for my current goal?
- What is the action I can take right now, regardless of how I feel?
- What is the opposite, most powerful way to reframe this situation?
By consistently challenging negative self-talk, choosing to act anyway, and leveraging the accountability of others, you seize total control of your mindset.
That is how we don’t just win the day—we architect a winning future.
January Will Not TEXT You Back: Time To Move On.
January will not TEXT you back… time to move on.
I was just reading a research study indicating that 95% of workers want to or plan to seek a new job in 2024! For real estate brokers, this is a two-edged sword… in one way, it opens up opportunities for recruiting and talent attraction. In another way, it’s a watch out for our own staff and agents.
My good friend and colleague Steve Murray from REALTrends did a study in the last downturn – 2008 to 2012 – and found 15 companies that grew substantially during that downturn. He found ONE common trend. It was:
“They got closer to their people. No matter how close or connected they thought they were, they were intentional about getting even closer. More connected. More relevant.”
- Retention: how can you get closer to your organization?
- Talent Attraction: what events or activities can you do to get closer to your own organization and invite others to experience your culture?
- Recruiting: who do you (or your team) need to get closer with to see what’s possible?
One way is our TCF+ methodology:
- # of Weekly Intentional Touches:
- # of Weekly Conversations:
- # of Weekly F2F Appointments Scheduled:
- # of Weekly Database Additions:
- # of Weekly Referrals you earned from your Agents and Outside Influencers:
- # of Weekly DRIS (Data, Recognition, Insight, and Stories) follow-ups you sent:
What is measured improves.
For those in the program, I’d love to hear your success stories and your numbers for the week.
For those not in the program, let’s chat about what’s possible.
For all of us, 2024 is the year to Build Back Stronger. January will not TEXT you back…
Win The Day
Two points of view:
- By the mile, it’s a pile; by the yard, it’s hard; by the inch, it’s a cinch!
- By the kilometer, it’s a pile; by the meter, it’s hard; by the centimeter, it’s a cinch!
Either way, you get the point.